So I think we have all reached the conclusion that there is no “one size fits all”. However we are seeing more and more of the “one size fits most” philosophy. Though it does not claim to fit “all” it still gives the impression that you will most likely fit into this size because you are probably part of the “most” right? Well, too many times I have tried on garments that are labeled as this, and guess what, it doesn’t fit. (GASP!) One or more parts of it are too big/small, too long/short. Now I am not a tiny human, but I am also not big. I am a runner, but I don’t have what you would call “runner legs”, instead I have voluptuous shapely thighs and buttocks. My stomach isn’t as flat as it was before kids, but it doesn’t exactly stick out, it is just…a different shape. I am considered “average height” at 5’6″ yet many pants are long on me. I am as uniquely shaped as I am uniquely wired in my personality and thinking.
Now this thought of “one size fits most” does not limit itself to articles of clothing, many people (including “experts) apply this to diet, to exercise, and even to faith. What we need to realize is just as this approach is unreliable with clothes, it is unreliable with everything else. God created each of us as unique human beings, so why do we think that what worked for so-and-so down the street will work for us? You want to lose weight, so you ask your doctor, who recommends the low fat diet because it is most widely advertised. But instead of losing those pounds, you gain a few more. Your friend lost weight on this certain exercise program so you decide to try it, however you find it boring and skip a few days, or you cannot do all of the movements, and you lose nothing. A runner claims that running 40 mile weeks are the best way to improve your time, but you can only ever seem to get around 25, so now you think there is no way to get faster until you have more time to run. Half of your Bible study group claim to wake up every morning and have a quiet devotion time because that is the best way to start the day, so you give it a try, only to find your kids are early risers and you spend more time trying to get them distracted than on your devotion. Then you feel like you aren’t faithful enough because you can’t spend your morning one on one with God. All of these things worked for “most”, so you must be an outlier, not one of the few privy enough to be in the “most” group.
Guess what, nothing is one size fits most, and simply because it doesn’t work for you does not mean you are a failure, it only means you have to be willing to find what does work. You have to experiment and see what is the perfect combination that is going to work uniquely for you. Now there are experts out there who know this, and will help you and guide you to find it, but keep in mind it’s not all of them.
So the low fat diet eating doesn’t work for you, try something else, low carb, clean eating, paleo, whole 30, count macros, count only calories just find which one makes YOU feel the best.
So you dislike workout videos, try walking, biking, swimming, lifting, yoga, etc. Find something you enjoy doing so you can stick with it.
So you can only run 25 miles a week instead of 40. Throw in a couple speed workouts with your current routine and you can find a way to get faster.
So you can’t get in that devotion every morning. Send up a quick prayer as you hear your little one’s footsteps coming down the hall, and get in your Bible reading some other time that day or set aside a few days a week to make sure you get it in. God enjoys any time with you, whether it is in prayer, with children, or one-on-one.
All in all please ignore anyone who is trying to sell you their “one size fits most” approach and YOU DO YOU. Do what makes YOU feel good, what works with YOUR life, and do what YOU love doing.